Something bad is 'bout to happen to me

 Hi, how is your day going people? Hopefully, it's amazing because I know I had an amazing day. 

So this is what happened. Remember the ex, I told you about. Looks like she suddenly realised that I was something good that had happened in her life. Apparently, she went back on Bumble 10 days after we broke up and then started to realise men only want one thing and nothing else.

See kids this is why you should not fuck over something when it goes well, learn to reciprocate other people's feelings. 


Today I want to talk about imbalance. The imbalance of feelings :) 

Before we start here is the song of the day, and it's K-Pop. Rainy Runaway by KIRINJI

Now, let's start. 

Yesterday a friend of mine sent me a really beautiful Quora article. I am attaching it here. The crux of the article was about self-improvement and the dynamics of people in relationships. It's a very interesting read please do give it a chance if you can. 

What I realised is when two people are in a relationship, there will always be an imbalance, one of you will have stronger feelings for the other person than the other one. 

And relationships are messy see, from my personal experience what I have seen is either one of the people in the relationship is unsure of what they want or they are unable to express their boundaries. Keep them at bay, people always like attention and they want it without strings. Like how Bumble has the option of "Intimacy without commitment". People want "Attention without giving it back". 

Such a fuck all concept it is. I don't think there is intimacy without commitment but then again that's my personal opinion and I could be wrong as this is very dependent on the person you are. 

It's difficult when you are in a relationship with someone who does not know what they want when they can't express their boundaries. It feels like our efforts are not being seen, and we all want to be seen in life. 

That's one of the fundamental needs of being human I think, being seen. The things people do just to be seen, to be recognised, it's fun. 

Coming back to what I was saying, the imbalance in the relationship dynamics, is what causes most of the breakups. Basically, someone feels like they are not being heard or seen and ultimately things get murky.

I think one of the core reasons for the success of a good relationship is expression by both parties, trust and the fact that both parties know that they can rely on the other person. Not being insecure about the other person. I think those things make a good relationship. 

If they are able to navigate through disagreements and hardship. Knowing that each person needs their own space, has their own beliefs and is willing to adjust with each other, it would bloom into a really nice relationship.   

Hopefully, I will find someone like this as well. Well, if I don't that should be okay too. 

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