Am so done :)

 Hey, 

I think this will be my final vent regarding the topic of love, I have decided to quit. At least dating apps are something I don't think I want to partake in anymore. 

Let's start off with a music recommendation for the blog - I Miss You by Blink-182. 

 I was on and off in multiple dating apps, primarily Bumble, and looks like how it ends up is always a pattern, people just go there to boost self-confidence at least here in Kochi, Kerala. Also a tip for anyone who plans to use this, as a guy get premium this helps in discoverability. 

As a girl, you will be bombarded with so many likes that you wouldn't know what to do. 

I think it's because of the vast options, I think people get decision fatigue on that app, so many options. I think if we make a dating app addressing these problems it should actually help bring in connections. But I don't think it will be a profitable business model. 

Let me explain what am talking about, the theory is called choice paralysis. This happens when someone is given multiple options they are unable to choose something. There have also been studies which show the same. Even tho having multiple options might look appealing it makes it hard for people to pick and choose. I will attach papers for everything I am talking about. 

A well-known study by psychologists Sheena Iyengar and Mark Lepper (2000) showed that when shoppers were given 24 jam flavours to choose from, fewer people actually made a purchase compared to when they were given only 6 options. More choices seem appealing, but they can make decisions harder.

This is why when you shop in high-end designer stores they take away products and let you keep only 2/3 at your end. They make you decide on which one to take away. 

The human brain also has limited decision-making potential, and this is something that has been scientifically proven. As the day progresses it's harder and harder for people to make logical and informed decisions. This is also one of the reasons why it's always best to go to meetings and visit your doctor in the first half of the day when they have not made a lot of decisions. 

A famous study by researchers Danziger, Levav, and Avnaim-Pesso (2011) looked at Israeli parole board judges and found that prisoners who appeared early in the day had a much higher chance of getting parole than those who appeared later. As the judges got more fatigued, they defaulted to the easiest choice—denying parole.

Another issue I see is the fact that the current generation is so tone-deaf, they prefer to do everything via text. While digitalisation has its perks I think one way it could have taken a back seat is here, when it comes to socialising. In text, you do not understand the other person's intent, it's always a guessing game. 

While calls are better for judging the tone, I think the best is still face-to-face interactions, looking someone in the eye while you talk to them. The body language, subtle signs which show if you are invested in the ongoing conversation. When you think about it, there are hardly any rom-coms where two people fall in love via a dating app. 

Anyways if someone wants to make an open-source dating app where we do not focus on making money, making a product where the sheer intent is for two people to connect hit me up, and let's make it happen.   

Well, now I know what to do, I should get off these dating apps and try and socialise irl. Maybe you should too. That's it for today's gyaan.